Fathering Our Future

Processing Past Pain | What Christian Dads Need to Learn From Jacob

I want to discuss something that affects each and every one of us: our past. All of those experiences we often try to sweep under the rug that end up shaping us more than we realize.

We are looking at the story of Joseph but focusing on another character, his dad, Jacob. Jacob's favoritism towards Joseph, born from his own unresolved issues, led to a whole mess of trouble for Joseph and his brothers.This biblical story is one that sadly continues to repeat itself but we often overlook it.

Facing our past isn't exactly a walk in the park but ignoring it won't make it disappear. May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and it's time we courageously begin the journey to deal with our stuff.

Jacob's story isn't just a history lesson; it's a cautionary parable. His unresolved bitterness seeped into every aspect of his family life, wreaking havoc for generations.

If you're coasting along, feeling the weight of your own past, I'm here to tell you: you're not alone. Whether it's a trusted friend or a professional counselor, there's help out there. And trust me, asking for it doesn't make you any less of a man—it makes you better.

So, Christian dads, let's do ourselves and our families a favor: let's confront our past, break free from its grip, and pave the way for a brighter future. Because our kids deserve dads who aren't weighed down by yesterday's baggage.

If you need help and you are struggling to find someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to email fatheringourfuture@gmail.com.

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The Secret To Being Happy

Do you want to be happy? According to an expert at Yale there is something that happy people have in common. It is also something that the Bible makes very clear to us: community.

And it's not just about having acquaintances; it's about forging real connections, having people to share life's ups and downs with.

As Christian dads, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle of life, to isolate ourselves in the middle of our responsibilities. But we weren't meant to go it alone. From Adam in the garden to Elijah in the wilderness, the message is clear: we need each other.

So, in this episode, I'm sharing some practical strategies to cultivate community. From joining church groups to hosting game nights, there are multiple ways to connect with like-minded individuals. Notice I said, “like-minded,” not “same-minded.” Too often we remove ourselves from others because they are not exactly like us. I hate to break it to you, you want find many just like you. However, there is biblical guidance for building community even when there are differences.

So if you find yourself struggling to make friends and finding yourself down in the dumps a lot, let me help you by showing building community doesn’t have to be that challenging.

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The Greatest Mother’s Day Gift | A Time Commitment to Your Wife

As we approach Mother’s Day we may find ourselves rattling our brains to find the perfect gift for our wives. While it is important for us to get something material, the greatest thing we can give is immaterial; our time.

In this episode, I focus on a crucial aspect of our roles as Christian fathers: prioritizing our wives.

From Ephesians 5, we learn that husbands are called to emulate Christ's sacrificial love for His bride. It's about more than just being present—it's about giving our entire selves to our wives, which requires our time. By making this commitment, we not only fulfill our marital vows but also find a profound sense of purpose and fulfillment.

But why is this so important? Well, aside from nurturing a strong marriage, our actions serve as a tangible representation of Christ's love to our children. When they witness our reverence and honor towards our wives, they gain invaluable insights into healthy relationships and the character of Christ Himself.

Our time commitment to our wives benefits her, us, and our children. Whether it's scheduling regular date nights or simply being fully present in conversations, every effort contributes to strengthening our marriages and enriching our family dynamics.

I want you to be encouraged to commit time to your wife every day and grant her the gift of experiencing a God-designed marriage.

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Talking To Your Kid: The What, When, & Why

Have you ever questioned what to say to your kid or what to actually talk about with them? Have you struggled with getting your kid to talk to you? If talking with your kid ever feels awkward, let me try and help you.

This week I dive deep into one of the most crucial aspects of fatherhood: talking to your kids. From communication to relationship building and discipleship, I'm here to emphasize the importance of those open and regularly occurring chats.

Think about it: communication isn't just about exchanging words; it's about building trust and nurturing relationships. As Christian dads, trust forms the foundation of our influence. Without a solid relationship, our words fall on deaf ears.

Join me as I break down the why, what, and when of talking to your kids. From discussing Bible stories to navigating life's complexities, nothing's off the table. Whether it's a car ride, bedtime, or a special outing, seize every opportunity to connect with your children.

I'll share personal anecdotes, like the time my 7-year old son dropped the "F" bomb and how we turned it into a teachable moment. Conversations like these shape our children's character and faith.

I’m imploring you to embrace open dialogue and lead by example. Together, we'll raise disciples who navigate life with wisdom and grace—one conversation at a time.

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Interview with Pastor Hadley Baker | Freedom From Pornography

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Pastor Hadley Baker, author of "No Longer A Slave." For over two decades, Hadley wrestled with the chains of addiction to pornography, a struggle that often remains hidden in the shadows, especially within Christian circles.

With unwavering honesty and vulnerability, Hadley opens up about his journey from darkness to freedom, sharing the raw details of his battle with pornography and the devastating impact it had on his life, relationships, and ministry.

But this story is not one of despair; it's a testament to the transformative power of Jesus Christ, faith, and community. Pastor Hadley reveals the pivotal moments and practical strategies that enabled him to break free from the grip of pornography and step into a life of redemption, restoration, and purpose.

Join us as we delve deep into the heart of addiction, unpacking the shame, guilt, and stigma that often accompany it, and discover how embracing vulnerability and community can lead to healing and wholeness. Whether you're struggling with pornography addiction yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers invaluable insights, encouragement, and hope for the journey ahead.

You can grab a copy of Hadley’s new book here: https://amzn.to/3JudCQj 

If you want to connect with Pastor Hadley, visit: www.hadleybaker.com

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The Secret to Managing Chaos

This week’s episode is all about diving headfirst into the chaotic world of parenting and emerging with a newfound sense of peace and purpose. As a Christian dad myself, I know firsthand the challenges that come with managing chaos while striving to be the dad my children need me to be.

I delve into the root causes of chaos in our lives, from the clash between expectations and reality to the complications that come with time. We'll explore practical strategies for preventing chaos, including adjusting our expectations and embracing controlled chaos with our kids at home.

But chaos isn't always something to be avoided. In fact, I'll share why a little chaos is essential for our growth as fathers and as individuals. Drawing inspiration from Psalm 46, I’ll share about the power of being still in the midst of life's storms and allowing God's Spirit to guide us towards peace.

So whether you're navigating the aisles of Home Depot with your little ones or braving a chaotic dinner outing, this episode is packed with insights and wisdom to help you stay grounded, exercise self-control, and foster a peace in the midst of chaos. I want you to discover the transformative power of embracing chaos with a spirit of faith and resilience.

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If you want more information on expectations and other basics for dads, especially new dads, check out my book, Cut the Crap.

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10 Transformative Marriage Tips: Lessons Learned After A Decade

Today's episode is packed with insights gained over ten years of marital bliss – and the occasional challenge. I've penned ten invaluable nuggets of wisdom that have truly transformed my own journey alongside my wife. From understanding the power of support before solutions to the importance of unwavering consistency in our actions, each tip is a testament to the sacred bond we share with our wives.

But, it's not solely about the advice – it's about embracing the profound essence of marriage. I emphasize the idea of unity with our wives, the beautiful journey of growth and development we embark on together. As Christian fathers, it's not merely about wearing the title of husband but embodying the spirit of service and selflessness, mirroring Christ's love for his church.

So, if you're a dad seeking to fortify your marriage, eager to navigate the complexities of love, this episode is tailor-made for you. As Christian dads, our marriages serve as a profound reflection of God's love to our children. So let's dive deep, learn, and apply these principles to nurture thriving marriages that honor our wives and reflect the love exemplified by Christ.

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Why Games Are Essential for Dads and Kids

As fathers, we strive to make lasting memories with our children while imparting valuable life lessons along the way. In our journey as Christian dads, it's crucial to find activities that foster bonding, fun, and tradition. That's where the magic of playing games with our kids comes in.

I want to discuss three reasons why incorporating games into our parenting arsenal is not only enjoyable but also deeply impactful. Drawing from personal experience, I'll delve into how something as simple as a game of Mancala can serve as a powerful tool for strengthening the father-child bond, instilling important life lessons, and establishing cherished family traditions.

Discover how embracing playtime with your children can transform your role as a dad, enriching both your lives in ways you never imagined. This episode offers practical insights and inspiration for Christian dads seeking to make the most of their parenting journey.

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The Right Time To Forgive Your Kids

When should we forgive our children? No one enjoys being wronged, and no one easily forgets the injustices committed against them. We tend to hold on to those acts, especially when they are committed by the ones closest to us, and even more so when they come from our children.

Should we wait until we feel they understand our pain? Should we hold off because we think we need to teach them a lesson? At what point do we forgive our kids?

The Bible provides us with insight into how we should go about forgiveness. We have more than God’s example and how He forgives us; we also have an example of a father who was wronged by his son.

While it never feels good to be hurt, disrespected, or wronged, there is a path we should choose when it comes to forgiving our children that might not always come naturally.

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The Right Way To Do Fatherhood

Would it shock you to know that an accurate reading of Revelation 3 and the moral of KungFu Panda could help you understand the right way for you to do fatherhood? It sounds crazy, but it is true.

So many of us fall into this category of people who just want to know what to do. We do not have a desire to guess or to make mistakes. We want someone to tell us exactly the best way to go about whatever we want to do and then we just want to do that.

Fortunately, there is a right way, but it is not what you think. It is not a path that has defined parameters. It is not 3-step program that gets you to "greatest dad in the world" status. The right way for you to do fatherhood, deals with you.

I want to help you understand this better by walking you through the letter to the church in Laodicea recorded in Revelation 3. And yes, I am going to reference one of the greatest animated films, KungFu Panda. If you want to know the secret to doing fatherhood the right way, listen up!

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